Check out today’s video: 15 Ways To Have Your Best Year Ever Lunch & Learn This is a new year and you have the power to make it anything you want. Check out today’s lunch and learn where I share 15 easy to implement strategies that will help you have the best year ever. Remember midlife is your time to shine!!!!!! Take control of your life and have the best year you have ever experienced. With a little bit of effort each day, you can make that wonderful year you have dreamt of a reality. It is the small things that can make the most difference over time.
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I can stay focused on the present and the future. My ability to avoid dwelling on the past is increasing. I understand that thinking about the past has negative consequences.
There is nothing left for me in the past. I am glad that I learned from my past mistakes and successes. That is the best thing about the past – the lessons it provides. I take those lessons and apply them to my present. Focusing on the past, though, leads to regret.
I choose to look forward. I spend five minutes each day to imagine the future I wish to experience. I know that a compelling future is the best way to stay motivated and positive.
I work hard in the present to create my future. I can only interact with time in the present moment. I make the most of each moment and look forward to enjoying the future even more.
I can let go of the past. Time spent on past regrets and mistakes lessens my ability to manage my life and generate success. I have more significant potential for happiness when I leave the past behind. I forgive those that have wronged me. I forgive myself for my past mistakes.
Today, I keep my attention on the present and the future. I am permanently leaving the past in my rearview mirror. I leave the past in the past and focus on the future.
What is one mini goal I can focus on and accomplish this week?
How can I enhance my ability to avoid focusing on the past?
Happy New Year my friends. This beautiful year is just a blank slate waiting for you to put your special imprint on it. One of my coaches sent me this, and I wanted to share it with all of you because this is the year of no excuses and no waiting for the perfect time. The Time is Now! I changed a few things to make it more relevant to our midlife mission, but I want you to know that I believe in you, I believe in us, and together we are unstoppable. Don’t let your past trauma, failures, and unsupportive family members keep you from having the best year of your life.
Enjoy and take action
I want to talk about your IMPACT.
IN MIDLIFE Life comes down to two things:
#1: Who did you have the courage and audacity to become?
Were you brave?
Were you genuinely excellent in everything you did?
Did you live with authenticity?
Were you following your own values and truth?
#2: How many people did you help?
How much value did you create?
How many people did you profoundly impact?
The bottom line?
YOU must believe in YOU.
Because the world needs to see your mastery. The world needs you to transform lives.
And the world needs you to TAKE ACTION…
…even when things are scary and uncertain.
Don’t give up on your vision and ambition.
No matter what.
GO ALL IN.
Commit to NO EXCUSES.
Because beneath every excuse is a FEAR.
But beneath every ELITE athlete, professional career woman and thought leader…
…is the strength to PERSEVERE.
Bravery is a muscle.
Creativity is a muscle.
Mastery is a muscle.
Use it or lose it.
So, if you want to 2x your IMPACT…
You need to 2x the investment in yourself. Your education. Your business.
When you know more, you can produce more, and you can achieve more.
STILL do not believe me.
Then start believing in YOURSELF.
Because you give yourself what you feel you deserve.
If you do not feel you deserve greatness, you will find ways to sabotage yourself.
So if you are not getting what you deserve…
Think about this:
Are you getting in your own way?
Are you struggling to be and do what you are made to do?
Are you spinning your wheels?
Maybe it’s time to give yourself what you TRULY deserve.
Be better. Be amazing. Be LEGENDARY.
Stop w-a-i-t-i-n-g for the perfect story. Or the “perfect” timing.
Other people deserve to hear your story. Other people deserve to have your help.
You were MADE for this.
Step up to the plate. It is your time.
And I would love to help. If you are ready to soar this year, then schedule your free Empowerment Call with me, let’s discover what is holding you back together. Problems do not solve themselves, but you have the solution. Let’s find it together.
When I start to work with a new client, one of the first things I like for them to identify is their support system. When you try to do something that you have never done before, you do not need to be pulled away from your focus by family and friends who do not support your vision for your life. When you change everything in your life has to change, the more you align your life with your goals the greater your chances of success.
That is not to say that they have to agree with you completely, but they should refrain from throwing water on your dreams by reminding you of all the times you didn’t quite hit the mark in the past. Sometimes, they might think they are helpful with comments like:
“You can lose the weight on your own.”
“Are you even trying? Try harder.”
“Just eat less and workout more.”
“Shouldn’t you be thinking of retiring instead of starting a new career?”.
“People your age don’t run marathons.”
“Is the pain that bad or is it in your head.”
“Your time has passed; it’s time to let the younger folks have a turn.”
These are just a few of my clients’ comments, and I have heard when we confided to our closest confidants about our plans to make changes in our lives. When they recall the comments, many clients break down in tears.
Whether it is losing weight, starting a new career path, or pursuing your purpose, and maybe your new career path is your purpose. You must create a support system that supports you unconditionally, holds you accountable when you don’t believe you can do it, and loves you no matter how many times you must start over.
Anyone who does not fall in step with your plans is dead weight, and you should eliminate them immediately. You do not have to cut them out of your life entirely if you do not want too, just do not let them into your inner circle.
Make a list of three people you can count on to support your journey towards a new you.
Like so many Americans, I found myself shouting and celebrating the election of Joe Biden as our new President-elect and Kamala Harris as our Vice President-elect. After the most intense election cycle I have ever experienced, I was glad to see it come to an end.
As each news outlet proclaimed the dynamic duo the winner, I watched interview after interview, parents of young children and young college students extolled what this historic election meant to them.
While I am ecstatic that my grandchildren will see someone who looks like them in the White House. I found myself thinking about what it would mean to have a woman in mid-life become the most powerful woman in our country, in the world. And I got even more excited. Not only did she shatter the glass ceiling, but she crushed all our excuses.
Too often in my coaching practice, I meet women in midlife who have given up on themselves and their dreams. They genuinely believe that the life they have is all they are entitled to; that simply is not the truth.
Kamala’s election proves to us that we can continue to dream and fight for ourselves after fifty. We still have a future. But many of us are so committed to living in our past that we end up living our lives backward. That must end.
I believe her election is a wake-up call for all us midlife women to reawaken to the possibility of creating the life we want. Will you answer the call? It is time to dust off those dreams and recalibrate them; they will be the foundation for your new future.
I must be honest with you, I had to check myself. I have found myself crossing off goals this year and labeling them as impossible to achieve. Mentally, I was drained and unresponsive. But this election result has re-ignited a fire in me, and I hope it does the same for you.
The world may have written off as obsolete, what they do not realize is that we are the classic models that never go out of style.
There is someone out there waiting for you to become the woman you were called to be; there are souls tied to our dreams; we may never meet them, but they will find us, and as our life changes, we will give them the power to change theirs. Look at Kamala; she did what no one in this country believed was possible. Let her be your beacon until you are strong enough to become your own.
You have the power to create the life you want to live. Our families, our communities, the world, is looking to us to be the light on the hill. I believe in you; I believe in us! It is time you stop focusing on your losses and start celebrating your wins. Kamala is calling, will you answer?
Each day brings another chance to take hold of our health and to invite joy into our lives. I have found that without health it is impossible to enjoy your life. We spend so much time-fighting disease, that we forget that we can choose health and wellness. Join me for the 21-Day Sugar Detox, Reset Your Mind-Body-Spirit. I promise that not only will you lose weight and reduce sugar cravings, but you will also re-energize your life.
With Love and Peace,
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Hey there! In 90 days, 2020 will be history. We may not have started well, but we can end it with a bang. But I want you to consider this, no one expects you to win. Your family and friends probably do not believe that you can really conquer your fears, lose weight, or fulfill your dreams. You have been talking about leaving your soul-sucking job for years; they do not even listen when you complain about it now.
They do not expect you to move out of the ordinary existence you have carved out for yourself. And while it may be a lovely place to hang out, it is not where you want to spend the rest of your life. You want to spread your wings and soar as high as you possibly can in this life.
The truth of the matter is that while your family and friends do not expect you to become extraordinary at this stage of your life, you might not think it is possible either. I could be writing this post for myself as much as for you, but I believe that if we band together and hold each other accountable, we could achieve some big goals in the last 90 days of 2020.
But where should we start? Start with one dream. You do not have to conquer your entire to-do list in 90 days; start with just one goal. In other words, start small. Pick one item off your list and go all in until it is completed, and then if you have time, choose another one. Surround yourself with other midlife women who will love you, support you, and give you a little kick in the bottom when you stall. (join our free midlife made easier group)
You might be a little timid to do something new; maybe you tried to move the needle towards greatness before and failed. So, what! Failure is learning. My 90-day goal is to write and publish the three tiny books I started and stopped writing at the beginning of the year. Literally, I got almost to the end of each one and just let everything else interfere with my writing time, including my own excuses. I want to give birth to these half-completed manuscripts and share their contents with the world.
You may think that it is impossible to do anything significant in just 90 days. Maybe you believe that you do not have the time between your job, community work, and the people you still have to care for, don’t get me started on caretaking; we are, after all, the caregiver generation. When I think about it, this is the first time in my life when I was not taking care of someone besides myself. Do not get me wrong, I am not suggesting that your family and friends are hoping you fail, but if you change, that could upset their worlds. And believe me, they do not want that to happen.
We are midlife women, most of the world has written us off, our contributions from here on out is to babysit the grandkids, go to church, or chase after our grown children and try to find out what is happening in their lives. Still, we were made for more than to live vicariously through our children and grandchildren, our life experience, the sacrifices we’ve made, and the hard-fought knowledge we have accumulated demands that we share our genius with the world.
No one in your current circle may expect you to become the extraordinary superstar you were created to be, but I believe in you. I believe in us. Now! Get to it.
In 90 days, you could:
Lose 12 pounds (just one pound per week)
Find a new career
Increase your savings account balance
Write a book
Get rid of the clutter and reorganize your home
Read three novels (just one per month)
Start a blog or a podcast (post once a week, that is 12 entries by 12.31)
Buy a new car
Take care of the dental work you have been putting off
These may not seem like life-altering activities, but you would be surprised at what one small shift in your “normal” routine can lead to; if you want some accountability, let us know in the comments what you are going to tackle in the last 90 days of 2020. We will be right there cheering you on.
Midlife can be hard on our self-confidence and self-esteem. If you have any contact with social media, you will have noticed how everyone is striving to be perfect. Suddenly you cannot post a selfie without at least one filter or go out for dinner without showing your curated plate of food. Even your dog must look perfect.
It is easy to get stuck in comparison mode, and if we are not careful, we will lose our joy.
What if you just decided to take a step away from all the competition? Leave all that clamoring for likes and hearts to others? What if you chose merely to enjoy your life without sharing it with the world? Here are four ways to reclaim your life and reenergize your joy.
You can decide right now to stop analyzing other people, looking for what is wrong with their face or their body or their life choices. Refocus your mindset so that you stop seeing differences as flaws, but as ways that make each of us unique.
Let go of the urge to criticize others, and you will notice that your negative self-talk will begin to diminish.
Accept your imperfection
Wanting to be the best version of you is not the same as being a perfectionist. A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they are doing. There was a time when I would not post a video unless I was in full make-up. I can laugh now, but it seriously hampered how I was able to connect with you guys. I realize now that being my best means I work hard, and I do not give up. Stop blaming yourself when things are not perfect, learn from the setbacks and failures and recalibrate, and never take failure personally.
Relax and enjoy the process
Do you ponder every detail of your plan until you get nothing done? My coach is always telling me that “done is better than perfect”. Trying to wait to do something fantastic in your life until everything is perfect will only put your life and dreams on hold. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.
Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.
Adopt imperfection as a way of life
Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about your life. Your perspective changes, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly does not matter so much. All our experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly. These experiences, no matter how jacked up, will help you to create the person who is continually evolving.
Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. Think about it like this: perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It is fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what? You do not want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you? Embracing imperfection means there is always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.
Say it with me, from today forward I will enjoy my imperfect self.
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