Five Things Every Single Mom Should Consider Before Dating Again

Click here to listen to Episode 57 of The Welcome to Your Life Podcast-Five Things Every Single Mom Should Consider Before Dating Again

Hey, I get it; being a single mom can be lonely and scary.  Like everyone else, single moms want to be in a stable, loving relationship.  The problem happens when we try to manifest those relationships before we’ve gotten ourselves, our children, and our households in order.  When I learned that my ex-husband had started dating, I jumped headfirst into the dating scene.  After 20 years of being with one guy, I thought how hard could it be for me to find someone new; he did it, so I tried to meet guys on dating apps, in clubs, and through mutual acquaintances.  But I wasn’t ready, and my children weren’t ready.  Maybe, like me, after seeing your ex with a new partner, your first inclination is to find someone new; I had to learn the hard way that whether I was dating or not, my household was complete.

      Today, I want to share five things every single mom should attend to before they start dating.  These are the things I wish someone had told me before I tried to start dating again.  Now, as with any advice, you can take it or leave it, gleam what works for you and leave the rest.  But, I promise you that if you take your time and work through this checklist when you decide to start dating, you will feel less overwhelmed, more in control, and just plain happier, and so will your kids. You will enjoy the experience more and choose partners who have what you want and not just because you are desperate to be part of a couple.

 1.  Heal:  Make sure that you have healed from your past relationship. Break-ups are hard.  Often, we blame the other person as much as we blame ourselves, and as painful as it is, we must allow ourselves to feel the pain of this loss.  In my 12 years of working with single moms, I have found that it doesn’t matter how atrocious the relationship had become, or if the break-up was a mutual decision and you parted as friends, we still need to grieve.  So, allow yourself time to go through the grieving process.  The time is different for everyone; ending a relationship in which you have invested time, energy, and love will be hard on you emotionally, physically, and possibly financially.  One surefire way to sabotage a new relationship is to bring the unpacked baggage from your old relationship into your new one.

2. Make Sure Your Kids Are Adjusting: Break-ups are hard on kids like you; they have come to depend on the other person being in their life. They need your assurance that everything is going to be okay. Sit down and speak with your children, answer their questions, and explain how things are going to work from now on, including visitation, living arrangements, and who will pick them up from school. Your child may be dealing with some anger and grief now that you and your ex have called it quits. Make sure that you have a stable routine, and don’t be afraid to find some professional help. As a Parent Advocate and Case Manager, I helped moms and dads find a licensed professional counselor to help their kids dealing with anxiety and depression. Some kids have a hard time processing this change in their family and begin to act out at home and school. It is impossible to deal with a brand-new relationship while trying to ensure that you and your children are adjusting well.


3. Organize Your Household: Create a morning and evening routine for yourself and your children. Routines help children to feel safe and more in control. It will decrease the amount of overwhelm you feel when trying to get through your day and deal with your feelings and their feelings. Get out the calendar and assign household chores, schedule homework, mealtimes, after-school activities, visitation, and family time. To make your mornings less stressful, you can layout everyone’s outfits for the following day, make sure backpacks and lunches are packed, sign all school-related paperwork, and set the table for breakfast the next day. As moms, our #1 job is to ensure that our children feel safe and secure in their environment. I promise when they feel safe and secure, you will be much happier.


4. Get Your Finances in Order: Use this time of uncoupling to organize your finances, create a simple budget that includes your income, debts, and savings. No matter how bleak your financial outlook appears, it’s crucial to handle the money that is going in and out of your home with care. I learned this the hard way. In the early years of my single parenting journey, not having a budget cost me thousands of dollars in late fees. I don’t want that to be your financial story. You may need to find a new job or go back to school to learn a new skill. But you will never get a handle on your finances until you get the courage to make a budget and write things down. The worst mistake I see single moms making is finding someone to help them with their household expenses. If someone is helping you financially-they are going to want a say in how your household operates and how you raise your children. Ask yourself, am I ready to share or give up control. Think of this as a time to simplify your life and focus on yourself and your children. You are a strong and capable woman able to take care of yourself and your children.


5. Create Your Village: “Children who have single parents will also have many supporters.”  You can do this alone, but you do not have to do it alone. I do not know where my children and I would be right now if I did not support my family, friends, and church family. Raising children as a single mom is hard work; it can be physically, emotionally, and financially exhausting. You need someone in your corner to support you and your children. You need someone to vent to, relax with, and someone who will gladly watch your kids so that you can have some “me” time. Your village will include help for you and role models for your kids, so make sure that you vet everyone who comes into your circle to make sure that you share the same values.
I know that single parenting can be lonely, and I would never tell you not to date again, but you can never be too careful with children in the mix. When flying solo, you only had to worry about your broken heart if things didn’t work out; as a mom, you now must watch out for the little hearts under your charge. Following one or all five tips will help you be sure that you and your children are ready when you invite a new personality into your household.


What’s your advice on single moms and dating? Post in the comments!
With Peace and Love,
Renee

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Don’t Let Anyone Tell You Forgiveness Is Easy

“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”

Mel Robbins

    Forgiveness is not easy, and anyone who tells you otherwise probably was not that angry to begin with; my journey towards forgiveness has been rocky, to be sure. But I do not want you to think I am asking you to consider doing something that I have not had to do myself.  My childhood was rough; a lot happened to me that no child should experience; one of those events was when my day left us when I was eight.  I only saw him sporadically for the next 16 years.

      I blamed him for not being there to protect me from all the crap that I endured.   When my first child was born, I had a decision to make, stay angry with my dad, I mean, who would blame me.  There was a part of me that wanted to hold on to my anger and continue the cycle of pain and abandonment. I was used to those feelings; they felt safe, but how could I do that to my son? Have you become comfortable with your anger?

       I chose to forgive, and my children have some of the best memories of Papa J.T. he never missed a church play or baseball game; he was the one they called when they missed the bus for school.  And he and I patched up our relationship, which was so wonderful; when he died, I had no regrets.

     No regrets, which was a beautiful side effect of me forgiving him, we developed a lovely relationship that we could not have had without me forgiving him.  I will always be grateful.  

If you chose not Failing to forgive will make you miserable. Creating and maintaining negative thoughts doesn’t feel good. Pleasant thoughts support an excellent mood. By refusing to forgive the person that wronged you, you’re harming yourself.

You’ll be stronger. Forgiveness can be challenging! Staying angry is easy in a certain way. Show yourself just how strong you are. Take a deep breath and forgive. It becomes easier with time.

    Don’t let anyone tell you that forgiveness is easy; it is not, but if you want to get on with your life and create something beautiful without regrets, let go of the comfort of your anger and forgive the person that hurt you, remember forgiveness is for you.

With Love and Peace,

Renee

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Forgiveness is Not Forgetting!

Listen to WTYL Episode 56 Forgiveness is Not Forgetting

    “Forgiveness is not always easy. At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness.” Marianne Williamson

In my coaching practice, we focus on healing from the trauma, heartbreak, disappointments, and betrayal my clients have suffered.  My goal is to help them put their healing first to create the life they want and not get stuck living the life they have.  Forgiveness is one of the cornerstones of healing because you are just spinning your wheels without it.  Holding on to the “thing” that someone did to you is like hitting yourself in the face repeatedly and expecting the person that hurt you to say ouch. 

     I get it; when someone has done you wrong, the last thing on your mind is to forgive them; you might even be thinking of ways to get even. However, forgiveness is the gift you give to yourself, and if you want to finally heal and move on with your life, you will have to acknowledge the unforgiveness in your heart. 

   Forgiving someone does not mean that you must forget what they did or that you must become best friends. Living in the past steals your present and taints your future. Your great future requires an attentive present. That’s not possible if you’re living in the past. Life is happening right now at this moment. Every moment spent in the past is lost forever. I want to invite you to reclaim your life by forgiving and moving on.

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for What You Want

         Too many women live their lives waiting for someone to see how great they are and give them the recognition they deserve.  I get it; asking for what you want is scary; what if the other person says NO!  So, we wait to get raises, promotions, or commitments in relationships.  Well, it is time for that to stop.  You have heard the old saying, “a close mouth doesn’t get fed.”  It’s true.  If your boss can get you to do great work and pay you less than you are worth, they will.  If you have given your heart to your significant other along with all the emotional and financial support they need, but they are still taking you for granted and listing you at number two or three on their to-do list.  They will not change until you ask them to. 

    You might be scared the answer is no, but if the answer is no, you will have a decision to make, whether to stay or go.   If you’re the kind of woman who rarely says what you want or whispers your intentions, it will be difficult for others to hear, much less help you. Practice turning up your volume and declaring what you want. Speak your desires, increase your confidence by making decisions that benefit you, take charge of your life.  Let your voice be heard.

I believe in you!

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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When Life is Out of Control! Believe in Something Greater Than Yourself

Listen to Episode 55 of the Welcome to Your Life Podcast: When Life is Out Of Control-Believe in Something Greater Than Yourself

As human women, our first inclination when trouble strikes is to find a solution.  We continue this journey trying many different tactics hoping that something will work.  I should know, I tried so many different things to fix my relationships, lose weight, find peace doing a job I disliked, and just getting through what I perceived to be my daily grind.  It is tough to gain control of your health if your life is in a continual state of chaos.

Belief in something greater can provide you with the foundation you need to heal and create the life you want and deserve. Spirituality is not just about going to church, temple, or synagogue. While standard religious practices may be a conduit for many to exercise their faith, it is  not necessary to belong to a religious group to be spiritually healthy.

According to a study conducted by the University of New Hampshire, the benefits of spiritual wellness include:

·         Developing a purpose in life.

  • Having the ability to spend reflective time alone.
  • Taking time to reflect on the meaning of events in life.

·         Having   a   clear   sense   of   right  and   wrong. 

  • Having the ability to explain why you believe what you believe.
  • Caring and working for the welfare of others and the environment.
  • Being able to practice forgiveness and compassion in life.

Maintaining your spiritual wellness will help you deal with conflict in your life by keeping you focused and balanced. There are several ways to boost your spiritual connection, including yoga, meditation, prayer, and journaling.

These contemplative practices will allow you to quiet your mind and show yourself some much needed compassion. Try to add one of these tools to your daily routine; choose one and make it your mission to complete it each day for as little as ten minutes will help you feel more connected to your purpose, find meaning in life, and create lasting relationships.

Which spiritual tool will you incorporate into your daily routine?

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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When All You Want To Do Is Catch Your Breath

You have just gotten through one disaster when here comes another one, the attacks are unrelenting, and you might be thinking of giving up, but what you really need is to take a breath. Yes, it would be nice to heal and reset before the next disaster, but life does not work like that; when it rains, it pours, or so the saying goes.   Jesus said the Enemy has one job to kill, steal, and destroy, and he is relentless, especially when we decide to step into our God-ordained purpose. 

     So, before you give up, take a breath.  Find a quiet corner, get comfortable and breathe.  Focus on the calming sensation of your breath as you inhale and exhale.  Allow the quiet to wash over you as you give thanks to the Lord.  Do this regularly, and I promise you will feel better.  You will have the energy you need to conquer your day.

 Remember, you are stronger than you give yourself credit and more blessed than you know.

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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Four Things to Do to Help Your Adult Children Process Your Parenting Style

Click here to listen to Episode 54 of The Welcome To Your Life Podcast: Four Ways to Help Your Adult Children Process Your Parenting Style

     Let me begin by saying this is not an indictment of anyone’s parenting history or parenting style.  Whether you decided to become a full-time, part-time, or no time parent is not the issue.  This post is only meant to help you to prepare for the when your adult child comes to you and ask you why?  Why were you so strict?  Why didn’t you come to more of my games?  Why didn’t you protect me? Why didn’t you raise me?  Why did you have me so late in life? Why did you give me up?   These are just some of the questions, I have helped my clients process over the years as they make peace with the mistakes they made as parents.

   To be clear, regardless of all the parenting books, magazines, and programs you might have listened to while you were in the parenting trenches, you probably made some mistakes.  We all do, no matter how hard we try to change, many of us fall back on the parenting style of our moms.  This topic came to me as I processed my own parents parenting style and how it did not prepare me for life.  My parents have passed away so I cannot ask them any of the “why” questions.  But I was also not prepared to answer my children when they asked me why I parented the way I did. 

    I must admit at first I was angry and hurt at the thought or suggestion that I was anything but a model parent.  I volunteered at their school, carpooled to all the after-school activities, introduced them to Jesus-that alone should have earned me a gold star. 😊 I cooked dinner and made sure they had desert each night.  And I worked two jobs after their dad, and I divorced to take care of them.

     I debated the merits of my parenting voraciously.  Then I realized that my trying to argue and defend myself was futile.  Children as you know grow into adults with thoughts and opinions of their own.  The last thing I wanted to do was to create an irrevocable rift between us and I am guessing you probably feel the same way.  So instead of angrily defending your parenting record try these tips instead.

  1. Listen Actively:  Give them your full attention, get rid of distractions, and focus on what they are saying. Do not try to over talk them or defend yourself to the point that you miss exactly what they are asking or saying.
  2. Correct inaccuracies with love- please do not tell your child that they are lying, perhaps the way they remember an event is not entirely accurate.  Just correct them gently with just the facts and refer them to someone who can collaborate your version of events if possible. 
  3. Show yourself some compassion:  as mom’s we do not need anyone telling us we made mistakes or missed the mark; we do that quite well on our own.  But this is not the time to beat yourself up for all the things you did not do, this is the time to acknowledge that you loved your children, and you did the best you could with the tools you had. 
  4. Beware of guilt:  your child may try their best to make you feel guilty about missing their little league game or sleeping through their eight-grade graduation (that was me, sorry John). Feeling guilty serves no one and could hinder your ability to mend fences and create a better relationship with your child.  You cannot go back and fix your parenting mistakes, but you can be the best parent to them now as adults.

     Adult children are trying to figure out who they are, and why they are the way they are, this is the work all humans must do if they want to take their life to the next level.  So even if you were the best mom in the world. They will need to take this journey of self-discovery.  Their questions are probably not meant to hurt you but help them to process some angst they may be experiencing in their own lives.  This is your time to help them navigate this part life’s journey and help them to prepare to become better people and better parents.  Parenting never ends, no matter how old your children are, create a relationship with them as adults where you are not only their mom but their friend.

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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Praying But Not Preparing

I always wanted to be the type of Christian woman that prayed to God earnestly, not begging, with teeth and fists clenched so tightly the blood drained out of my face and hands.  I wanted to send up my prayers and then just walk in the blessed assurance that comes from knowing that God is in control. But until recently, that was not my testimony. Instead, I prayed and worried, and begged, and negotiated with God daily.  It was exhausting.  Then, one day, while I was praying earnestly.  I heard the Holy Spirit say, praying but not preparing.  Wow, that hit me like a ton of bricks.

     Yep, that was me.  Always praying but never preparing to receive the Thing I was praying for, as we wait for the Lord to answer our prayers, we must prepare the ground so that the blessing will have a place to take root.  I prayed that the Lord would bless my ministry, but I was too afraid to step out and begin sharing my work.  So, in essence, there was nothing for the Lord to bless.  You might be praying for a new job, but you have not updated your resume and applied anywhere.  You may be praying for peace in your household. But you continue to walk around with a massive chip on your shoulder, too angry to speak to anyone.  You might be praying for a husband.  But, you have yet to clean your spiritual and natural home to welcome your new mate.  

     Whatever you are praying for, make sure that as you pray, you also begin the process of preparing to receive, do not delay your blessing, miss it when it comes, or lose it because you were not ready.  Your preparation is an act of faith.  So, actively wait for the Lord to do what he promised!

Look at one of your prayers.  How can you begin to prepare to receive the blessing? 

Remember, you are stronger than you give yourself credit and more blessed than you know. I love you guys!

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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The Hardest Thing You Will Ever Have To Do

The hardest thing you will ever have to do during the healing process is to let go and rely on God.  Trust me, it is easier said than done; our first inclination as human women is to fix things.  To find a solution to our problem that will make everything right again.  It does not matter how hard or how long it takes us; we will continue searching for an answer even when it slows or nullifies our ability to heal.  When we try to save ourselves, we neutralize God’s ability to work on our behalf.   My grandmother Leona always told me that I will not win for real until I learn to let go and let God.  There will come a time in your life when you must believe God because trying to take matters into your own hands is only making your problems worse.  Your prayer today is to ask God to give you the strength to leave your problems with him once and for all so that you can turn your focus to the task that He has assigned to you; focusing on that task will help you to heal and bring peace to someone who is waiting for you.

Remember, you are stronger than you give yourself credit and more blessed than you know.  I love you guys and I think you are awesome!

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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Feeling Safe in An Unsafe World: Three Ways to Create Your Own Safety Bubble

Episode 53 Welcome To Your Life Podcast! Feeling Safe in An Unsafe World: Three Ways to Create Your Own Safety Bubble

     For the longest time, I abdicated my safety to others, my parents, employers, husbands, family members, and even in a way, to my children.  Being their mom gave me purpose and anchored me to the world.  I needed this because my own childhood had given me a rocky start in life.  My favorite memory of my father was the day he picked me up from school to walk me home.  I was eight.  I still remember how happy and safe I felt holding his hand walking down the Cleveland streets on that bright sunny day. Unfortunately, he left us shortly after that, and I only saw him sporadically until I was 24 years old. 

     His departure left me feeling abandoned, and I buried those feelings and how they made me feel for an awfully long time.   If you carry any unhealed feelings due to trauma, abandonment, heartbreak, grief, or disappointment.  It can be challenging to feel safe in the world.  The incident or incidents you suffered might have cracked or completely crumbled your foundation.  And left you feeling untethered and alone.  Sometimes, you might get the feeling that you are just going to float away.

     You might feel like I did for many years, that you have no real control over your life.  If you think like this, victim thinking can creep into your mind and set up shop and become the lens by which you see the world.  You may find comfort in living like a victim in the world. I know from personal experience that this is an unhealthy way to think and live.  This type of thinking is not meant to empower you but to keep you stuck.   It dramatically diminishes your ability to heal and make real changes in your life. 

If you are tired of depending on the kindness of others if you want to feel safe in a world that is anything but safe most of the time, especially for women and people of color.  You must put your healing first and begin the healing process. I want to share with you three ways to start and create your own safety bubble.

Three Ways to Create Safety

Heal

     Ultimately our safety comes from within; regardless of what happened to us, we cannot look to others to make us feel whole and safe.  It is not fair to them, and no matter how hard they try as a human they will fail us.  Creating your own safety net requires that you deal once and for all with what ails you.  Being open, honest, and compassionate with yourself and realizing that healing is an ongoing process that will probably take longer than you imagine, so be patient.  Get some help, do not try to do this alone.  A coach, a therapist, or a support group will be loving company on your healing journey.

Belief in Something Greater:

When my son wanted to make peace with his anger, he turned to Buddhism.  As a Christian, when I feel so out of sorts and need a steady hand, I hold on to Jesus.  Whoever your higher power is, take this time to study and become intimate partners during your healing process. “The mind is an incredibly powerful tool. It can be used for good but also go to waste when neglected or abused. In times of trouble, we tend to move away from positivity. We go from a state of abundance to a state of lack. But faith is the tool that helps replenish abundance in the heart and the spirit, not just in the mind.”   There will be a time when your human strength and determination are not enough to keep you going, and this is where your higher power steps in and take up the slack. 

Create Your Village

     You will find that in most of my writings, I harp on this powerful yet underestimated tool.  We are so hellbent on doing things on our own that we forget the power of being part of a tribe of like-minded individuals.  “Our priorities become distorted and unclear as we attempt to meet so many conflicting needs at once.” Your tribe will help you to stay balanced and focused, so that you can reach your goals that much faster. So, if you cannot find a village, create one; if you need help, reach out to me, I am just an email away. 

    Your healing journey will be whatever you make it, it is not for the faint of heart, and there will be times when quitting seems like the best and easiest option.  But, if you want to create a safe, beautiful, mindful life that you live with purpose, intention, and joy, it is worth every struggle you will encounter, and remember, you are not alone.

With Peace and Love,

Renee

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