Midlife can be hard on our self-confidence and self-esteem. If you have any contact with social media, you will have noticed how everyone is striving to be perfect. Suddenly you cannot post a selfie without at least one filter or go out for dinner without showing your curated plate of food. Even your dog must look perfect.
It is easy to get stuck in comparison mode, and if we are not careful, we will lose our joy.
What if you just decided to take a step away from all the competition? Leave all that clamoring for likes and hearts to others? What if you chose merely to enjoy your life without sharing it with the world? Here are four ways to reclaim your life and reenergize your joy.
- Stop judging
You can decide right now to stop analyzing other people, looking for what is wrong with their face or their body or their life choices. Refocus your mindset so that you stop seeing differences as flaws, but as ways that make each of us unique.
Let go of the urge to criticize others, and you will notice that your negative self-talk will begin to diminish.
- Accept your imperfection
Wanting to be the best version of you is not the same as being a perfectionist. A perfectionist is never happy with who they are, how they look, or how they are doing. There was a time when I would not post a video unless I was in full make-up. I can laugh now, but it seriously hampered how I was able to connect with you guys. I realize now that being my best means I work hard, and I do not give up. Stop blaming yourself when things are not perfect, learn from the setbacks and failures and recalibrate, and never take failure personally.
- Relax and enjoy the process
Do you ponder every detail of your plan until you get nothing done? My coach is always telling me that “done is better than perfect”. Trying to wait to do something fantastic in your life until everything is perfect will only put your life and dreams on hold. When you embrace imperfection as a natural part of life, it frees you up to enjoy the ride.
Obstacles become challenges that make life more enjoyable. You can slow down and notice all the good things there are in your life.
- Adopt imperfection as a way of life
Once you make peace with imperfection, you can be a lot more objective about your life. Your perspective changes, and what once seemed overwhelmingly important suddenly does not matter so much. All our experiences become just another aspect of a life lived richly. These experiences, no matter how jacked up, will help you to create the person who is continually evolving.
Imperfection stops being something to avoid at all costs. Think about it like this: perfection implies stasis, something you achieve and have to tend. It is fragile and vulnerable. It puts an end to growth. And then what? You do not want to stop learning and growing and developing, do you? Embracing imperfection means there is always an opportunity to learn and grow and become a better person.
Say it with me, from today forward I will enjoy my imperfect self.
With love and peace,
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